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WHAT DOES A LIFE COACH ACTUALLY DO? (The Quick Answer)
If you're experiencing anxiety, depression, trauma or other mental health concerns, a qualified therapist is usually the right place to start.
If you're mentally well but feel stuck, overwhelmed, lacking confidence, or unsure what direction to take next, a life coach can help.
A life coach helps people make positive changes by providing clarity, perspective, challenge, practical guidance and accountability.
A coach can help you identify what's holding you back, work out what you really want, explore different ways forward and turn your decisions into action.
That doesn't mean a coach simply tells you what to do. Sometimes the most useful thing is the right question. Other times, an idea, challenge or different perspective can help you move forward faster. you build clarity, confidence and momentum.
A simple way to remember it:
" Good coaching doesn't just ask where you want to go. It helps uncover what's stopping you getting there. "
What Happens in a Life Coaching Session?
There isn't a fixed script.
We'll usually start with what's happening now and what you'd like to be different. From there, we'll explore what's really driving the problem rather than automatically trying to fix the most obvious symptom.
A session might involve...
Understand the problem → Challenge the thinking → Explore your options → Decide what needs to change → Take practical action
Sometimes I'll ask questions that help you reach your own conclusions. Sometimes I'll challenge an assumption or help you see something differently. And sometimes, if I have knowledge or an idea that could genuinely help, I'll share it.
The balance depends on you, the situation and what will be most useful.
Is Life Coach the same as Mentor, Therapist, Consultant?
Not quite. There can be some overlap, but they have different roles.
Life Coach
Helps you create change through questions, challenge, perspective, accountability and action.
Therapist
Supports mental health and emotional wellbeing and may work with psychological difficulties, trauma or past experiences.
Mentor
Usually shares knowledge and advice gained from experience in an area you want to develop in.
Consultant
Is typically brought in for their expertise and may diagnose a problem and recommend what should be done.
Not sure whether coaching or therapy is right for you?
What Are the Benefits of Life Coaching?
The exact benefits depend on what you want to change, but coaching can help you develop:
- Greater clarity about what you actually want
- More confidence in your decisions
- Better habits and more consistent action
- Increased accountability
- Greater self-awareness
- Better boundaries
- Less overwhelm
- Renewed motivation and direction
- Progress on problems you've been circling for months or even years
The goal isn't to need someone to motivate you every week.
It's to change how you think, decide and act when the coach isn't there.
What Doesn't a Life Coach Do?
Understanding the limits of coaching is just as important as understanding what it can do.
A life coach isn't a doctor or therapist, and coaching isn't a substitute for appropriate medical or mental health treatment.
A good life coach also shouldn't:
- Make every decision for you
- Tell you how you must live your life
- Promise guaranteed or unrealistic results
- Pretend to have expertise they don't have
- Make you dependent on coaching
Ultimately, you're responsible for your decisions.
The coach's role is to help you think more clearly, see what you may be missing and make progress.
How Do I Know If I Need a Life Coach?
You don't need to wait until life has gone badly wrong.
Coaching is often useful when things are broadly okay, but you know something could be better.
Perhaps you're:
- Going around in circles with the same problem
- Struggling to make an important decision
- Losing confidence or motivation
- Procrastinating despite knowing what you need to do
- Successful in some areas but dissatisfied in others
- Ready for change but unsure where to start
If several of those sound familiar, coaching may be worth exploring.
How I Approach Life Coaching
I don't believe coaching has to sit rigidly at one end of a spectrum.
Sometimes the most powerful thing I can do is ask a question that helps you see something differently. Sometimes I'll challenge your thinking. And sometimes, if I know something that could genuinely help, I'll tell you.
I'm particularly interested in getting beneath the obvious problem.
What looks like procrastination might actually be fear. What looks like a motivation problem might be a lack of direction. And what looks like a work problem might actually have its roots somewhere completely different.
We work on the real problem, not simply the symptom sitting in front of us.
What Is Life Coaching Like in Practice?
Sometimes the easiest way to understand what a life coach does is to see what coaching looks like in
“For weeks I'd been tortured by indecision regarding my job... One session with Jake and somehow — I still have no idea how he did it — my scrambled, frantic thought processes were calmed and clear. We put a very simple plan in place and the upshot is... I've had a promotion and a pay rise, am excited to go to work every time...”
Ann B, Google Review